LOVE: Are you really ready for Love?



Are you in Love? Or are you really ready for Love? I remember at the beginning of my senior year of high school, I met my first serious boyfriend and in one of our first conversations he asked if I had ever been in love before. I replied “OF COURSE not! Do you know what being in love really means?”  Boy did he sure open up a can of worms when he said to tell him. I took out my bible and began to recite 1st Corinthians 4- 13. Riddling off each verse as if I truly understood what these words meant. As I sit here as a 28 year old and over 12 years later, I now realize how insightful, yet so clueless I truly was. Although I could recite the scriptures, I really didn’t know what it meant to love like the list below; this list makes you ask the question; Am I really ready for Love? 1st Corinthians 13 says… 

 Love is Patient –every time you ask your partner to do something on your personal time frame you’re not showing love; so guys when you ask your lady for sex when you both have made a commitment to be celibate, that’s not love and ladies when you keep asking him why he hasn’t proposed yet, that’s not love either, because Love is patient…

Love is Kind – If you only do nice things when you’re in the “mood” and not when your partner just really needs you to, that’s not love, because love is always Kind...

Love does not envy – If you stalk their Facebook, constantly question there where abouts and don’t trust anything they say, that’s not love. If you wished that they didn’t get so much attention when you go out, made less money than you or had fewer friends, that’s not love either because Love does not envy…

Love does not boast – If you revel a little too much in the fact that your relationship is constantly praised because people say you look so  great together or because everyone on Facebook and instagram likes all of your photos and calls you the “couple of the year”, that’s not Love, because Love does not boast…

Love is not proud – If you can’t ever forgive them, can’t be vulnerable with them and can’t admit when you are wrong or sorry that’s not love, if your ego is more important than they are and you rather be right than have peace in your relationship, that’s not love either, because Love is not proud…

Love is not rude- If you constantly call them names and emotionally or physically abuse them or intentionally try to hurt them when you disagree, that’s not love, because Love is not rude..

Love is not self seeking - I read this article by Seth Adam that says “Marriage isn’t for me”. He described how he had to learn that marriage isn’t about someone fulfilling his needs but it was all about fulfilling the needs of the woman he loved; his wife. It’s important to note selfish people can’t understand love, there too busy thinking about themselves, so if you are in a relationship or want a relationship because of how good a person makes YOU feel, that’s not love because Love is not self seeking..

Love Keeps no records of wrongs – If you have stored a file away for every time they lied, cheated, made a mistake or abused your trust and now your goal is to use it against them, by throwing it in their face whenever you feel they have gotten a “little out of line” take my suggestion and just LEAVE, because that’s not love, Love keeps no record of wrongs.. 

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves….

Love never fails….



Now did you past the test? Are you in Love?  Or Are you really ready for Love?  At the beginning of 2013 I began to search for the answers to why I failed so miserably at this list above. This is when I adopted my new mantra: Love God, Love Yourself, Love Others. You will always fail at this list if you don’t first apply it to your relationship with God. If you can’t be patient when He doesn’t bless you right away, refuse to trust his teachings or you become jealous when he blesses someone else, you don’t love Him. Until you learn that He loves you completely and unconditionally you won’t understand Love. Learn to trust that no matter how hard a situation looks, He is still working it out for your good; this is when you will truly experience His Love.

You then have to learn to really Love YOU, be good with you and get to know you; flaws and all. Discover your passions and gifts and allow God to transform you into the person he called you to be. Be content 100% by yourself, without feeling the “need” to have a mate. 
 
Then and only then can you begin to Love others, but please don’t wait for a romantic partner to do this either. Love the packer boy with a tip from your change and Love your little brother when he nags you to play with him. Learn how to Love God, Love You and Love Others with that REAL 1st Corinthians kind of Love and then God will know that you are ready for love and so will your partner in purpose ;) …. 

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  1. UnknownFebruary 28, 2014 at 8:04 AM

    Awesome post Kerel. I "love" the way you broke it down! (See what I did there?) LOL. A definite must share.

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  2. Kerel PinderFebruary 28, 2014 at 8:39 AM

    Thanks so much Star! and yes I sure did lol I "love" it ! :)

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